The Power of Choice

You don't have to jump out of airplanes, get sick, or become pregnant to experience this powerful change in perspective. In your everyday activities, listen to how images of passivity and powerlessness are created by your negative self-talk: "I have to work through lunch; I have to get gas for the car; I have to go to the office party." Exercising your power of choice will give you the opportunity to redirect toward constructive effort the energy formerly blocked by feelings of victimhood and resistance.



Are you willing to live with the consequences of not doing these things? how much freer would you feel if you made a clear decision about any of these tasks? You do have a choice. You don't have to want to do the task, nor do you have to love it. But if you prefer it to the consequences of not doing it, you can decide to commit to it wholehearedly.



Since you have made a mature commitment to the task, rather than arguing against it, you might as well be slef-nurturing enough to make it as pleasant as possible. Even when the choices are rotten ones, you can exercise your power of choice and learn to embrace the path that makes the most sense to you. And precisely because you have chosen to do it, it becomes less difficult, less painful, and more quickly accomplished. Whenever you catch yourself losing motivation on a project, look for the implicit "have to" in your thinking and make a decision at that moment to embrace the path-as it is, not the way you think it should be - or let go of it. It's your choice.



~ Neil Fiore, Ph.D.

How to Talk to Yourself

+ What you choose to do
+ When you choose to do it
+ Where you choose to start it

As you begin to speak to yourself in a language that focuses on results rather than blame, on choice rather than have to, on what is rather than what you think should be, you will find that your body and mind cooperate by providing a level of positive energy (that is without stress or anxiety) free from the unnecessary struggles of the past and negative comparisons with the future.

One needs to know how to catch the early signs of depression about lost opportunities, reminding himself to say, "Yes, they are in the past. Too bad; nothing I can do now about that. But what can I do now?" One then should practice rapidly turning his attention toward one, small corrective step he could take now. He needs to learn to turn the stuck energy and worry about future "should's" into constructive effort by asking himself, "When is the next time I can start working toward that goal?" By talking to himself in ways that disrupte one's old patterns, he will become very efficient in diverting self-criticism and depression about the impossible toward something constructive that he could accomplish.

To avoid getting stuck in thoughts about the past or the future, you will want to start changing your language. To become more productive and efficient, you'll want to clearly communicate to yourslef what you choose to do, and when and where you will carry out your commitment to start.

What makes our mind work better

It is not discipline, willpower, or pressure from others that facilitates adherence to a challenging course of action; but rather the freedom to choose among alternatives, the personal commitment to a mission, and the willingness to take responsibility for the consequences of one's decisions that steel the will and embolden the spirit. - NEIL FIORE

Becoming......

What we acquire of course is valuable. But, the
greatest value is not what we acquire. The greatest value is
what we become.

My mentor had an interesting way of teaching it, When I was
25 years old he said, "I suggest, Mr. Rohn, that you set a
goal to become a millionaire."

I was all intrigued by that. You know, it's got a nice ring
to it - millionaire.

Then he said, "here's why..."I thought to myself, 'gosh, he
doesn't need to teach me why. Wouldn't it be great to have a
million dollars.'

Then he said, "no, then you'll never acquire it. Here's why.
Set a goal to become a millionaire for what it makes of you
to achieve it.

He said, "Do it for the skills you have to learn and the
person you have to become. Do it for what you'll end up
knowing about the marketplace, what you'll learn about the
management of time and working with people...
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网络交友的错乱

有人说：大棚把季节搞乱。这里加一句：网络交友把朋友认知的过程搞乱。

Work on your business, not in your business

This is a important point for a business owner or leader. Spend time and effort on bigger issues, such as directions, stratigies, getting right people into right place, measure results. Don't spend too much time on routins.