How to Talk to Yourself

+ What you choose to do
+ When you choose to do it
+ Where you choose to start it

As you begin to speak to yourself in a language that focuses on results rather than blame, on choice rather than have to, on what is rather than what you think should be, you will find that your body and mind cooperate by providing a level of positive energy (that is without stress or anxiety) free from the unnecessary struggles of the past and negative comparisons with the future.

One needs to know how to catch the early signs of depression about lost opportunities, reminding himself to say, "Yes, they are in the past. Too bad; nothing I can do now about that. But what can I do now?" One then should practice rapidly turning his attention toward one, small corrective step he could take now. He needs to learn to turn the stuck energy and worry about future "should's" into constructive effort by asking himself, "When is the next time I can start working toward that goal?" By talking to himself in ways that disrupte one's old patterns, he will become very efficient in diverting self-criticism and depression about the impossible toward something constructive that he could accomplish.

To avoid getting stuck in thoughts about the past or the future, you will want to start changing your language. To become more productive and efficient, you'll want to clearly communicate to yourslef what you choose to do, and when and where you will carry out your commitment to start.